self-help books

Tonight while I was on the computer, I was looking at self-help books and the reason why I was looking that these types of books was because my cousin is at place where she thinks the outer appearances will change her inner appearances, and I know all to well that even if you change your outer appearance it doesn't change who you really are under all that fake change. My cousin believes that if she looses weight she will be that IT girl and all the fellas will be after her... To some extent I can see why she says that, but on the other hand I think believing changing the outside only is dangerous because you can become addicted to the limelight that others give you, but as soon as they get pass who you are they leave you because on the inside you are broken and ugly. you stop fixing the best parts of you to fix the outer parts of you. I think we should make changes about ourselves but not to forget that our outer appearance doesn't make up who we are our or inner does, and I wish my cousin could see that... SO I decided to get her a self-help book on confidence and I hope that she decides to read it....