REAL WOMEN STAND UP

I have been reading all of these love books about if I'm so great why am I single, or finding the way to loving yourself, or just getting your mind right. it had me thinking... there are so many books on love for everything and still people can not get it right, it's like it is a sin to be single or be celibate or people think your a fool if you say your waiting for the right one to come along. I believe that it is a good thing to wait for the right thing then to mess with the wrong men and find yourself in a stagnate place and hating all men and crying. NO ladies we should want something better and I don't believe that we should ever have to settle. Fat, skinny, ugly, pretty it doesn't matter, we all deserve that pure love.While I talking with my cousin who feels like she is not complete if she doesn't have a man in her life... even if the man is terrible as long as she has one. This last guy she talked to was a total buttface. he was young minded and treated her as if he didn't need her. Here is the thing, though Corey has been hooked on his ex for a while now, and my cousin still went into that mudslide. I told her to leave him alone that she would only get hurt but did she listen??? No, she went against everything I said and would you figure she got hurt. She blamed him called his ex-stupid, and all I could think of was why is he just to blame, why not blame herself???? Why do we as women always blame the man or others? why cant we take the blame for our own actions? Listening to my cousin made me realize that we live in such a messed up world. We cheat, lie and steal to get what we want and even when we do get what we want we are not happy. my cousin thinks if she can curse him out and tell him about himself he will change the problem is.... He won't change he is who he is and the battle won't be over until he wants it to be. And who are we to get angry with people because they are not ready to be committed in a relationship. we need to understand that everyone grows at their own pace, and we can't judge people for that. We also as women need to understand that we are in total control of our own lives and we need to stop blaming love, lust, the guy or whoever for our mistakes I believe that we are old enough to see that we cause our own pain...
love is optional it's not required. And I think we have forgotten that. we believe that we can change everyone as long as we put up a good fight and tolerate pain and suffering he will see that you're worth it. NOOOOOO, LADIES, he will not you look like a SUCKA. and really at the end of the day, a man wants a woman that can stand by her word and doesn't allow a man to define her who she is. WE need to start loving ourselves more than we love our partners and we need to figure out who we are and what we ant before we go on a manhunt. I believe if we are mature and open love will follow, and not that simple fighting hating love... NO, that Sweet kiss on the forehead kinda love, just to hear your voice because kind of love, and the embraced you feel when your together kind of love. WE can all have this kind of love if we change up our attitudes and start being REAL WOMEN.

self-help books

Tonight while I was on the computer, I was looking at self-help books and the reason why I was looking that these types of books was because my cousin is at place where she thinks the outer appearances will change her inner appearances, and I know all to well that even if you change your outer appearance it doesn't change who you really are under all that fake change. My cousin believes that if she looses weight she will be that IT girl and all the fellas will be after her... To some extent I can see why she says that, but on the other hand I think believing changing the outside only is dangerous because you can become addicted to the limelight that others give you, but as soon as they get pass who you are they leave you because on the inside you are broken and ugly. you stop fixing the best parts of you to fix the outer parts of you. I think we should make changes about ourselves but not to forget that our outer appearance doesn't make up who we are our or inner does, and I wish my cousin could see that... SO I decided to get her a self-help book on confidence and I hope that she decides to read it....